So hard to speak to hubby

i’m really trying to work on my communication with my husband… i really am… but it’s so hard because i’m always shot down…i dont know if it’s cause he’s trying to protect me or he doesnt want me having a good time or what it is… i have no idea and its’ so frustrating… for instance…

there’s this woman i met online… shes’ bipolar and we’ve been conversing for a while… maybe 2 months… give or take… i was hesitant to tell hubby about her because he really doesnt like me meeting new people… so anyway i drummed up the courage to let him know about her and how i was thinking of meeting up with her and he gets so upset… and i told him “that’s why i cant tell you anything” he gets so defensive i’m just so frustrated.. how am i supposed to work on my communication when he’s the one that puts me off…that really irritates me…

it’s like he will do something to get me upset then he will either try to cuddle me or he will ask me… “why are you upset?” i just cant believe it.. i dont know how to communicate with him…